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By Gwen
Most of us can be found flying too close to the ground.
Too often we don’t give ourselves permission to soar.
It’s time to start focusing on possibilities rather than on limits or obstacles. Making a quantum leap means moving outside your mental boundaries. If you will rethink how you’re thinking, you can multiply your performance potential. You must let your desires guide you, instead of allowing yourself to be boxed in by perceived constraints.
Seeking the quantum leap means violating the boundary of the probable. It means achieving well beyond the obvious. So don’t limit your desires to what you think you “can have” …start going after what you “want.” This means you must give yourself permission to dream, to risk. You must set yourself free.
A 10 or 20% improvement isn’t the idea at all. That would represent only incremental gains. That might be an impressive performance in some situations, like if there were unusual obstacles or a very difficult set of circumstances. But while such a goal might be challenging, it would not represent a quantum leap. Instead of “an additional 10 % or so,” a quantum leap produces a dramatic and multiple gain, and exponential increase. Quantum leaps are by definition rather astounding, certainly unconventional.
Don’t get the idea that anything you can think of is possible. It isn’t. But in some areas of your life what lies within your reach is enough to stagger the mind. You can double your level of success. Triple it. Far beyond that, you can leverage up you performance to the second or third or fourth power….or beyond.
True, there are limits, but you don’t need to worry about them. Your real limits are far beyond your artificial mental boundaries. The real limits won’t box you in, but the false ones you’re carrying around in your mind are a self-imposed prison.
So how do you break out of that jail? Through surrender.
You have to give up some of your old beliefs and sacrifice some of those “sensible” thinking patterns. So-called common sense can be a curse that puts a ceiling on how far you reach or how high you fly.
YOU 2, the quantum leap strategy, is base on uncommon sense.
YOU 2
Price Pritchett
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Wait! That is SO powerful that is serves repeating…..” in some areas of your life what lies within your reach is enough to stagger the mind. You can double your level of success. Triple it. Far beyond that, you can leverage up you performance to the second or third or fourth power….or beyond.
True, there are limits, but you don’t need to worry about them. Your real limits are far beyond your artificial mental boundaries. The real limits won’t box you in, but the false ones you’re carrying around in your mind are a self-imposed prison.
Isn’t it true? We are capable of soooo much more than we actually ever even take a stab at because those limiting beliefs that we believe to be truths are such a self imposed prison!
Which of your beliefs are keeping you in a self imposed prison?
Email me at gwen@discoveryourdharma.com to schedule your FREE 30 Minute consultation.
Gwen
By Gwen
“Yesterday’s thoughts have created your present.
Today’s thoughts are creating your future.”
Jim Newman
PACE seminars
I am forever looking for opportunity and, interestingly enough, I seem to find it. Ned also seems to find what he is looking for (problems). He rarely finds opportunity. We see the world quite differently, yet we are both looking at the same world.
Many years ago, Ned and I were in conversation about the movie “Rocky.” I thought the movie was exhilarating. To me, it was all about how a “has-been” could pull himself up by his bootstraps and fight the heavyweight champion of the world. It was exciting. It was a glorious example of the power of the human spirit. However, when I asked Ned about his opinion of the movie he said, “It was about two bums beating each other up.”
Even though the movie was identical for both of us–exactly the same words, pictures, music, etc.– we had diametrically opposed reactions. How could this be? The only difference, of course, was what we brought to the movie. It was our filter (our consistent thoughts) through which we perceived the events and gave them meaning (our reality). That movie, like life, was the outer projection of an inner state. Our experience of it was strictly an “inside job.” We see life as a projection/reflection of our mind set. Our consistent thoughts become our reality.
Gary Craig
Emotional Freedom Technique
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By Gwen
Who have you come here to be? “We are the ones we have been waiting for.” In our world of busy-ness, rarely do people inquire of themselves or of each other, “Who have we come here to be?” Instead we gather at parties and PTA events and ask each other, “So, what do you do?” As a society we have become conditioned to think of ourselves in terms of what we do. And when we size each other up in an isntant, looking at clothes, cars, shoes, etc. we are defining ourselves by what we have.
The key is to be more interested in your spiritual purpose than your job or the outer evidence of fulfillment. You may be wondering what is yours to do in the world, only because doing and having seem to contain the power to complete you. You may strive, and seek, and search relentlessly to know what is yours to do, because doing leads to having, and having seems to contain a measure of relief and protection for the uncertainties and discomforts of life. Deep down inside, you may intuitively know that your happiness is not in things or in your capacity to succeed. It is somehow rooted in a more intangible knowing of your own worth and capacity to make a difference. What might your life be like if your search for what is yours to do was informed by who and what you have come here to BE?
Gary Simmons & Rima Bonario
”The Art and Practice of Living with Nothing and No One Against You”
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Who have YOU come here to BE?
Gwen
By Gwen
We see in others what we like and don’t like in ourselves.
Several months ago, my friend Nancy who had been in a slump for years came to visit. I invited her to hear one of the top motivational speakers in the world. During the lecture we were both quiet; I was busy taking notes. When we got into the care to go home, Nancy turned to me and said, “That guy is such a loser.”
Shocked, I asked her why she believed that. She told me she thought he was full of it and that he had no idea what he was talking about. He spoke too fast and looked like a nerd. For the rest of the ride home Nancy pointed out everything she didn’t like about this man’s manner and message. When we arrived home I asked Nancy to come and sit down with me. I asked her if she really believed this man was a loser. She looked at me with certainty in her eyes and said yes. Taking out a sheet of paper, I asked if she’d be willing to look at this issue. She thought about it for a moment and decided to play along.
On one side of the paper I wrote down all the things I knew about his man. He has a successful business as a consultant for Fortune 500 companies. He sells countless motivational tapes, and is paid over $5,000 a night to speak. He has been married for more than twenty years and has three healthy children.
On the other side of the page, I wrote down what I knew about Nancy’s life. She was divorced with no children. She had little contact with most of the members of her family. She was unemployed and had been unsuccessful in starting her own business several times. She was overweight and out of shape, and suffered from several ailments. She had debts of more than $50,000, and was currently living hand-to-mouth. Nancy looked at my list. Now I said, “If I brought ten people in and showed them these lists who do you think they would call the loser?”
At first, Nancy drew back, horrified that I or anyone was calling her a loser. This was her worst nightmare. But I explained that until she owned this aspect of herself she’d always project it onto other people. Nancy would be unable to hear important, powerful messages from other people because she was projecting her denied thoughts onto them.
After a couple of hours, Nancy began to see that deep within herself she believed she was the loser. This thought was so painful to her that she buried it very deep. Her father had told her she would never amount to anything and she had believed him. Since her childhood she had been unconsciously creating situation after situation in her life to prove she was a loser in order to retrieve this aspect of herself which she had disowned. It was always mirrored back to her in the external world but she would deny it, and the cycle would continue.
Once Nancy recognized her belief that she was a loser, then she could begin to look for the gift of this aspect and embrace it. Then Nancy would be able to examine how she’d set herself up to lose, and make a new commitment to honor the loser in herself and allow the winner in herself to create a life of abundance.
Nancy has since started a new career, and has been enjoying tremendous personal and financial success.
Debbie Ford
The Dark Side of the Light Chasers
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WOW! This was a challenging one for me to get! WHAT? Do you mean to say that when I see qualities in someone else that really bother me or that I don’t like… that I’m actually seeing MY OWN QUALITIES THAT I DON’T LIKE ABOUT MYSELF — IN THEM??? Yes, that’s exactly what it means!
In my coaching I use the term “blind spots” or “scatoma’s” regularly – the things we can see in others but not in ourselves. Our subconscious mind creates “blind spots” about ourselves for survival – just like Nancy did in the above story. “Her father had told her she would never amount to anything and she had believed him. Since her childhood she had been unconsciously creating situation after situation in her life to prove she was a loser”… as a child our caregivers teach us the “truth” or what we believe the truth to be and we aren’t able to differentiate between the words and the meaning. So, Nancy, “in order to retrieve this aspect of herself which she had disowned” attracted situation after situation to “mirror back to her in the external world” what she truly learned to believe about herself.
Do you have any blind spots and limiting beliefs that are keeping you stuck? Email me at gwen@discoveryourdharma.com for your FREE 30 minute consultation. Let’s see if we can shine a light on those spots together and do away with the limits. I look forward to talking with you!
Gwen
By Gwen
BEATING YOUR SELF UP
Ok, you’ve had great ideas….and they didn’t come together. In fact, it was terrible… What you did didn’t work – or worse, it totally bombed. You feel bad, really bad, and all too often go into: I am no good; I am a total screw up; I am a failure; success is something other people have; I SHOULD have known better…and on and on.
Save a LOT of time and energy ….and skip the time you spend in beating yourself up over something you did that didn’t work.
ASSESS WHAT HAPPENED AND WHAT YOU CAN DO TO CREATE A BETTER OUTCOME IN THE FUTURE:
The FIVE RIGHT questions:
o Was I dealing with or did I ask for help from the ‘right’ people? Was I the best person to do this or would someone else have been more effective for this particular task? Is it really reasonable to expect that you are best to do everything?
o Was it the best time to offer/do/introduce this? What could be a good time? If there is to be a next time when would be most effective?
o Did you use the right approach for your target audience? HOW you approach anyone can vary considerably for each person.
o Did you give them a compelling reason to deal with you? Was your goal for the interaction/activity practical? Was it meaningful to your audience? Was the cost to them (and to yourself) – in time, money or actions reasonable?
o Right Method – Did you follow your plan of action – or worse, did you fail to plan? Having YOUR clear goal in mind for any interaction always offers a better chance of success.
[These questions are borrowed from the medical world and used to assure that medication is correctly administered.]
CAN YOU REALLY DO IT ALL? And do you really want to? Stop trying to do all things yourself. Know what your life purpose is, what makes you feel strong, and delegate or hire out the rest.
Why is it that we are often afraid to ask for help or to hire others to do things for us? Why do so many of us run a
‘one [wo]man show?’ Do we just not believe there is real meaning to the statement: No [wo]man is an Island.
TRYING TO BE ALL THINGS TO ALL PEOPLE
You will never be an expert on all issues. Decide on those issues that seem to resonate with you. Better to
get known for doing one thing really, really well and develop people to refer for the issues you aren’t as
good at dealing with.
NOT RECOGNIZING WHAT YOU DON’T KNOW
Continue to invest in yourself and your on‐going learning. Budget a percentage of your income for books
and classes for your chosen area.
Don’t be afraid to ask others for help. Others want to help you. When you ask them their ego gets
involved in helping you succeed. I don’t mean that you can waste their time. Be prepared. Do your
homework as to the information you need. But, ASK. You’ll be surprised at how accessible others can be.
Want to offer a service or develop a product? There was a cute movie about a robot. The robot’s father
told him the secret to success was: Find something people need and give it to them. He was right. Ask
your target market what they want. Ask: What is your major interest and concern? What is most often on
your mind? What keeps you up at night? What are the biggest challenges facing you today? What do you
love about your work/life you wish you could do more of? Clarify your questions then call 10 people who
know about what you want to do and ASK.
What is your most burning question?
STOP FIGHTING THE ‘NEVERS’…FLIP IT!
We spend a great deal of time trying to:
o Figure out the meaning of life
o Trying to get it ALL done, and
o Trying to find LASTING satisfaction.
Give it up. Accept that you’ll never figure out life, you’ll never get it all done and you’ll never find lasting
satisfaction – you will always have ups and downs and disappointments in life. Turn those ‘nevers’ into a
POSITIVE outlook.
o Life is a journey
o The goal is to live as joyfully as possible.
o Be a Life Time Learner; there’s always more to learn something else important to do or learn. We
always seek what’s around the next hill; we humans naturally seek the next challenge.
Ann Adams
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I really appreciate Ann’s comments, especially regarding how we should ask our target market what they want. I believe that our perfect clients are and want very much the same things that WE are and want, so therefore the questions listed above:
· What is your major interest and concern?
· What is most often on your mind?
· What keeps you up at night?
· What are the biggest challenges facing you today?
· What do you love about your work/life you wish you could do more of?
…are the same questions we should be asking ourselves. These are questions that will help us on our journey to discover our own dharma.
If you would like some help in discovering your own dharma, please email me at gwen@discoveryourdharma.com and let’s schedule a FREE 30 Minute consultation call. I look forward to talking with you!
Gwen
By Gwen
Passion is the free flow of natural emotional energy that leads us toward the fulfillment of our dreams, desire, and purpose in life. Even though some people feel like they’ve lost their passion or never had any to begin with, in reality we all have passion or we wouldn’t be alive. The reason why so many feel bored, lost, or adrift in life is that they have become disconnected from their deepest desires.
As we are growing up, some of us receive the message that we don’t deserve to have desires, that what we want is unacceptable, or that it’s wrong or selfish to go after our dreams. Or we may feel powerless and think, “Why bother having desires when they will never be fulfilled anyway?” We then suppress our desires, even to the point where we’re no longer consciously aware of their existence.
No matter how deeply we’ve buried our desires, they are a force of evolution and growth that can never be completely halted. When we reconnect to what our soul is yearning for, we will find ourselves naturally expressing our passion and experiencing the expansion of happiness in our life. Here is simple practice you can use to rediscover your true desires:
- Begin by meditating for a few minutes and connecting to the experience of stillness and silence. Then ask what your heart deeply desires and yearns to express and listen quietly for an honest response. For the time being, don’t fixate on any one response, let the journey move wherever it wants to. This part also requires you to develop trust in your inner voice.As the process deepens, you will gain insight into whether a desire is coming from your ego or your real self. Does it feel relaxed and loving? Is it coming from a place that already feels good about itself? Does it want this for others as well as for oneself? These are the desires that the universe will support and therefore which will be manifested most easily.
- Ask yourself, “What are my unique gifts and talents? How can I use them to bring happiness to others and to myself?” Answers always come, but what I have discovered is that many people have such a strong filtering mechanism that they won’t even entertain certain responses and say that they aren’t getting any answers. The important thing when you are listening for an answer is to not to immediately reject what comes to mind just because it doesn’t match your preconceptions.
Just dig in deep and find out what really matters to you. Keep at it and don’t settle for “I don’t know what I have to offer others” or “I’m not really great at anything.” Don’t let yourself get stuck in notions that your passion has translated into work that you do for the rest of your life, or that it has to be grand or spiritual. Let it grow out of what you are doing today, right now, so that you find meaning and value in your present as well.
Continue doing this daily, asking yourself these two questions and writing down your responses as they evolve over time. Over the weeks, let the answers accumulate, whether they are repetitive or contradictory, or both. After a month, take some time to consider the ways in which your desires and your gifts have found expression in the last few weeks. This is the evidence that you are following your passion. It doesn’t have to be a simple final revelation; it can be an ever-changing process. Understand that everything you need to know is right here, right now and that it’s just a matter of transcending your limited perceptions to experience the passion, joy, and purpose of your life.
With love,
Deepak
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I’m a big fan of Deepak Chopra and I thought you would enjoy his gentle way of guiding us towards our passion… aka our dharma. Take a couple of deep breaths and ALLOW… you deserve it!
Gwen
"When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change."